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Would you have said yes to Drew's no-movie, all-make-out-sesh proposal? On the one hand... where's the respect? The romance? The appreciation for all of Alli's lovely qualities? On the other hand... Drew probably gets away with this sort of request a lot.

Watch the scene again to help you make up your mind. (And btw, if anyone ever needs to blackmail Alli Bhandari, all they need to is send Mr. Bhandari that vid... or perhaps this pic of her grabbing Drew's butt.)

Alllmost k-i-s-s-i-n-g. Sigh.

Those two loooove each other. This is gonna be good.

Here, please enjoy this pic of Eli giving Clare his soft-eyed, "I totally and completely dig you" look that would make any girl's heart melt. Probably worth printing out and saving for this fall's locker. That crooked little smile... I die!

And, you can click it (or here) to watch video of Clare and Eli's fireworks go pshew pshew pshew all over again. (PS yes I know that fireworks go boom and not pshew but these are little fireworks! Little baby fireworks 'cause it's just the beginning!)

Katy Perry's "California Gurls" video is on Obsess This this weekend...

But lately I can't look at her without thinking "Russell Brand." It's like word association. Katy Perry, Russell Brand. I have to say I'm somewhat surprised by their love... do you think they make sense as a couple?

Remember that time on Degrassi that Liberty -- organized, conscientious Liberty -- kind of sort of kissed Emma's boyfriend Damien? Just goes to show that all kinds of people can find themselves tempted to do such things. So just in case you ever find yourself in that position, here are three good reasons...

Why Not To Kiss Your Friend's Boyfriend (Even If He's Amazing and Even If You and the Friend Sometimes Have Weird Underlying Competitive Tendencies) (And Please, Feel Free to Switch These Gendered Pronouns with Ones of Your Choosing)

1) Your friend will find out. They almost always find out. And you know what, even if they don't find out, that means you're faced with the unholy choice of either lying to your friend until the end of time, or confessing to her and reaping the well-deserved spite, loss of trust, and probable gossip.

2) It's not worth it. As for the two reasons you might think it'd be worth it:
a) Maybe you and the guy will end up together! BUT -- if you get together before he's officially and unequivocally ended things with his gf/your friend, you will never be able to trust him. You'll have watched him in the act of cheating and lying, and you'll know he's not just capable of it, he's kind of good at it. Sketchy.
b) Maybe you don't want to end up together -- you just want to have a meaningless make-out. Really, though? You're really willing to risk (or interfere with) a real friendship over a meaningless make-out? That's kind of depressing, when you think about it.

3) You'll be proud of yourself. You'll hold the moral high ground. And you'll be able to answer future paramour's questions of "have you ever cheated?" with a firm and honest No.

Have any reasons to add? Drop 'em in the comments.

There was a great Jiberty episode on today... well, great in the "to watch" sense -- not great in that they kind of broke up at the end, and Liberty was pregnant, and life was kind of sucking for them. (Hope that wasn't spoilers for anyone!)

Anyway.

I saw this photo in the Degrassi archives recently, and I saw that Jiberty showed up a bunch in people's "favorite couples" lists... so here ya go.

Zoey 101: Spring Break-Up is supposed to be a fun little TV movie, but in my opinion, it's also a horrifying cautionary tale about the dangers of texting. Seriously.

I won't be too spoilery, in case you haven't seen it yet, but if you've ever watched Zoey 101, you know Chase is in love with Zoey. Everybody knows it -- except Zoey. In Spring Break-Up, Chase mentions his Zoey-love (and how he's not ready to tell her) in a text to a friend. BUT HOLY OMG NO... he accidentally sent that text to Zoey.

The thought of doing something like that absolutely terrifies me, so at that point in the movie I'm usually curled up in a ball, crying on the floor in front of my TV, because I feel so bad for Chase. (That might be a teensy bit of an exaggeration, but just barely.)

I've sent a few stupid emails in my life, but so far, I've never sent a painful, embarrassing text.

Have you? How'd you cope?

I just saw this pic of Jane and Spinner (or is it Paula and Shane?) and it made me go "awww" right out loud. Love is the best.

How do they rank on your "favorite Degrassi couples" list? Do you think they're built to last?

Some people are so secure that no amount of hot exes constantly texting their bf/gf's can make them break a snarl; some, like Holly on What I Like About You, seem to think it's reasonable to ask their boyfriends to delete all females' numbers from their phone.

Whereabouts do you fall on that continuum? On a scale from 1 - 5, one being "whatever, no big!" and five being "THIS MUST STOP NOW", rate how much the following scenarios would stir up that woogy jealous feeling in your gut. (And for extra credit, average all your numbers and let us kn ow your Overall Jealousy Score.)

1) You see your bf/gf talking to a hot guy/girl (whichever you are):
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

2) You see your bf/gf laughing and having fun with someone you know is just a friend:
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

3) Someone you know has a crush on your bf/gf texts them:
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

4) Your bf/gf hasn't taken down the pics of them and their ex, being coupley:
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

5) Your bf/gf invites a friend along on a movie night that you thought was just going to be the two of you:
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

6) You see a bunch of girls'/guys' names in your bf/gf's friends list:
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

7) You see a bunch of girls'/guys' names in your bf/gf's recent texts list:
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

8) You see your bf/gf in the cafeteria, sitting at a table surrounded by four girls/guys, talking and laughing:
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

9) You find out your bf/gf's ex is ridiculously like, model-hot.
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

10) Your bf/gf says out loud that someone else is attractive.
1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5

Remember that time on That '70s Show when the guys went to a "nudie flick" and Kelso felt guilty and told Jackie about it and she was psyched that he was honest with her, so he told her all about how that time she asked if he'd washed his hands before they made out and he said yes, actually he hadn't and he' d been petting dogs right before? That was awesome.

And then Jackie says something about "selective honesty" so I was wondering... which of these items would you "select" to be honest with your bf/gf about?

1) Your bf/gf directly asks you whether you think a guy/girl you know in real life is cute.

2) Your bf/gf directly asks you whether you think a celebrity guy/girl is cute.

3) A friend of yours is talking about a guy/girl who was just flirting with them. You think that the girl/guy is attractive and you're psyched for your friend. Do you volunteer, "Nice, that guy/girl is cute!" to your friend in the presence of your bf/gf?

4) Someone who doesn't realize you 're in a relationship asks you out.

5) Someone who knows you have a bf /gf (and knows who it is) has been sending you flirty texts.

6) Your bf/gf bakes you cookies and they're weirdly super-salty.

7) Your bf/gf got a bad new haircut, in your opinion.

8) Your bf/gf kind of needs to floss.

9) Your bf/gf is morally against violent video games and would think it was lame if you played them, but you played one at a friend's house.

10) Your bf/gf is like mortal enemies with someone from his/her old school, and you end up going to a party at their house and think they're kind of nice, actually.

This week's advice-seeker says:
"Well, me and my boyfriend have been together for seven months and he's great and everything. It's just that he has a vice that highly concerns me. He smokes cigarettes, and it bothers me.

I just don't know how to tell him to stop I'm afraid he will get upset and ruin our relationship. It's taken a huge toll on our relationship because my parents don't want me to be with him due to that issue. And they are also afraid that I will smoke cigarettes as well, but I'm totally against it so that will never happen.

So the question is how can I tell my boyfriend to stop excessively smoking cigarettes??"

And Sam Earle (K.C. on Degrassi) says...
"A very tricky dilemma, this one's interesting. First of all, I think we can easily agree that even one cigarette is one too many. Without trying to sound insensitive, it is, without question, a downright dirty habit that turns your lungs to swampy mush and that threatens to reduce a smoker to a familiar lump of ash, often at a tragically young age and after much suffering. I think that just about all of us have (or will eventually have) witnessed this first-hand, in something like the death of a family member for example. But the severity of smoking is old news, and so I'm glad you've already made the strong and crucial choice to keep your hands off the cancer sticks.

Yet despite the striking and indisputable nastiness of cigarettes, and no matter how many passionate anti-smoking class projects we do in elementary school, people seem to slip up once they hit their teens.

In fact, somewhere around 90% of smokers start before the age of eighteen. Since I just happen to be a teenager (fancy that!), I've always been inevitably surrounded by this phenomenon. Even one of my closest friends way back from grade one (You guys always roast the way I say that!... Elementary level freshman?) found himself deep in a puddle of smoke a year or two ago. There were definitely times when I asked myself how I could get him to quit - it's a reflex equivalent to the urge to pull a friend off a train track if a beast of a freight train were coming at them (in this case, at an excruciating speed of one mile per hour). I'd love to say that I found a perfect solution, or even any solution at all - if that were the case I'd transcribe it to one of those fantastic tube-shaped wizard scrolls, tie it up with a bow and send it to you by Easter pigeon. However, while my concern might have been appreciated at some remote level, or at least acknowledged (and don't underestimate the importance of the simple expression of this concern!), ultimately, it was his choice to drop the habit. He had the idea, he chose to execute it, he persevered in order to do so. Unfortunately, this was a couple years and a couple weeks in the hospital later, but what's important here is that he's arrived now at a state of mind and state of being far better and more stable than where he was before.

But I digress. When teenagers smoke, it's often a regrettable part of the usual ritual of adolescent self-discovery, an extreme side effect of insecurities and uncertain introspection, as I feel it was for several of my friends. It's understandable then why so many teens would push to the side everything they've been taught about smoking and any opinions they may have developed about it, in favor of personal experimentation: the focal point of young adulthood seems to be the creation of an identity. We are torn between conflicting internal forces: the person our parents and society have raised us to become, and the individual we hope to create independently. If we're clever, we'll find the parallels between these two selves and make reasonable compromises, synthesizing the two in order to determine who we are. Now that's a hefty task, and it doesn't happen overnight. It happens subtly over long stretches of time and life experience. I'm hoping that your boyfriend is still wobbling about in the realm of his identity. Then, the bad habit can become a learning experience; he just needs to accept the lesson it has brought to him and face reality head-on.

Open up to your boyfriend on the subject. Most importantly though, give him an opportunity to open up to you. Try discussing his problem, and don't be afraid to push him to quit.

Hopefully, your discourse will be productive, and he'll be able to move onwards and upwards. If so, then you'll have both grown as individuals and likely as a couple.

Eventually, he'll have to decide if he's a smoker for life or if he's not. If he is, then he has used this decision to define himself as a person, and he may very well be the wrong person for you in the long term. Remind yourself that you'll never be able to change who he is, but you definitely have the power to drop that sucka like a hot potato if he's not the right guy (seriously, if he actually gets "upset" when you confront him - PFFF!!!! - then the relationship was meant to be ruined; you have every right to communicate with your boyfriend!).

Go get'em! And just make sure that you start up the dialogue ASAP - life is short, and communication is your first step on the way to living it to the fullest."