Blog | now or never
- Posted on 08/11/2011 by Mary
SPOILERS BELOW; wait until you've seen Lose Yourself, pt. 2 to scroll down.
Just because Jenna hasn't had it hard enough lately, she gets dealt yet another blow: finding out that KC has been out cheating on her with Marisol while she attends to the never-ending, all-consuming needs of their baby.
"We're struggling, we're hurting each other, and you're never here." - Jenna to KC
It looks like being overwhelmed, depressed, and now totally betrayed have pushed Jenna to consider what she was unwilling to before: maybe Tyson would be better off with adoptive parents. And come to think of it, it's interesting that K.C. was so resistant when Jenna brought up the possibility.
Why do you think KC wants to "make this work" so badly, when he doesn't actually want to be there to parent Tyson, and he's cheating on Jenna anyway? Does "making it work" come at a different price to him than it does to Jenna?
I doubt that KC is proud of himself, and the situation Jenna's in right now is so unbelievably stressful and painful, it seems like it has to be rare and extraordinary. But really, everything about what Jenna and KC are going through is a pretty predictable outcome for them. Since they were having sex but chose not to think about birth control, a pregnancy was basically inevitable -- sexually active teens who don't use protection have an 85% chance of pregnancy within a year*.
And since eight out of ten fathers don't marry the teen mothers of their babies*, their break-up is just as inevitable.
But that doesn't make it any less sad.
How do you guys feel about Jenna's decision to consider adoption?
[* Stats according to StayTeen]
- Posted on 08/10/2011 by Lisa
SPOILER WARNING: Don't read this post unless you've seen "Lose Yourself, Pt. 1."
On tonight's episode, Jenna seemed to be at her breaking point. As a teen mom with no way to pay for childcare, she's stuck at home all day, every day, and it's making her crazy.
"When I'm alone with Ty, I get so depressed. I need to see my friends... be normal." -Jenna
Jenna seems surprised to hear that K.C.'s mom never went back to school after having K.C., but that's pretty normal for a teen mom. According to Stayteen.org, less than half of teen mothers ever graduate from high school and fewer than two percent earn a college degree by age 30.
Parenthood is the #1 reason that teen girls drop out of school, and things aren't looking good for Jenna, in my opinion. She's already missed a ton of class. Even if K.C.'s mom helps out, Jenna can only go to school in the mornings -- and whenever she has to use her breast pump, she'll be missing more class. I want to believe things will settle down, but at this rate, how long will it take her to graduate? (Keep in mind, she's only back for "two classes a day, plus lunch.")
Prediction time: Do you honestly believe Jenna will graduate from Degrassi? Where do you think she and K.C. will be five years from now?
If Jenna and K.C. asked you for realistic advice, what would you tell them? I emphasize "realistic" only because I just remembered Drew's quote from last season, "My only solution involves a time machine and a big box of condoms." Not helpful, Drew!
If you were Jenna, would you keep going to school, leaky breasts and all?
- Posted on 08/09/2011 by Mary
Yikes. The amount that Holly J is going through in the span of a couple days is stressing me out -- and I'm just sitting there with my dog and a bowl of pistachios watching! Can't imagine what it would be like for a real-life HJ.
Holly J, stressing the hell out. Justifiably.
It was so crazy seeing her birth mom tonight... but even crazier thinking about her trying to digest 1) a potentially fatal diagnosis 2) a completely earth-shattering revelation and 3) a supersuper awkward meeting with the stranger you LIVED IN for nine months, all in the course of a week!
I was personally kind of shocked that her parents wanted to wait until she was 18 to tell her... that seems a lot older than my real-life adopted friends were when they found out. If you were adopted or have a friend who was, when did your/their parents reveal it?
Anyway, what do you think of Holly J's birth mom... and her $20,000 request?
I hope that's not what stands between HJ and life because we need her to graduate and change the world! Even if @degrassitextfam thinks she should get held back to hang out with Fiona. Which would undoubtedly be more fun for us, but we must be strong and noble and selfless -- we must think of Holly J and what's best for her.
PS: Can't say I'm Imogen's biggest fan in terms of her influence on Eli but, just on a sisterfriend level: that "We're not together" scene? OUCH! What happened to whisper-whisper-tee-hee-hee on the bench, Eli? The signals! They are mixed at best!
- Posted on 08/08/2011 by Lisa
SPOILER WARNING: Don't scroll down unless you've seen "U Don't Know, Pt. 1."
If you loved Eli and Clare as a couple on Degrassi, how are you holding up this summer? Last week, we had lots of Clare and Jake "cake-out" sessions... and tonight things got pretty steamy during Imogen's audition.
If you consider yourself an Eclare fan (or ever did), please answer the following questions:
1.Do you think Eli and Clare will get back together?
2.How long do you think Clare and Jake will last as a couple? Is Jake a rebound for Clare?
3.How do you feel about Eli and Imogen's big ole kiss tonight? (He didn't kiss Sadie during her audition.)
4.Imogen was pretending to be Clare during that kiss. On a scale of 1 to incredibly-freaking-weird, how weird is that?
5.How will you feel if Eli and Imogen start dating? Do you see it as a rebound thing or do they have real potential?
I know we've got some really sensitive Degrassi fans out there, so if any of you are having a tough time coping as Eli and Clare kiss other people, I just want you to know that the whole Degrassi community is here to support you. Feel free to discuss your feelings in the blog comments, on the message board, on Facebook, or Twitter. We're here for you.
p.s. If you've got something to say about Holly J's health situation or the Adam / Katie storyline, feel free to share your thoughts on those, too. (Holly J was trending worldwide on Twitter tonight! Nice job, HJ.)
Elmo or Elimogen or Imogeli or whatever you want to call them.
BEWARE! SPOILERS AHOY.
Time for a fun game of... "LET'S BOSS DAVE AROUND!" If you were the boss of Dave, how would you have told him to handle his Sadie/Allie conundrum?
Dave and Alli, thinkin' 'bout it.
Obviously it's easy for us to play Armchair Love Quarterback now that we know how things turned out, but let's put ourselves at the crucial decision moment and take it from there:
- Dave had been harshly rejected by Alli more than once, but thought this time... maybe there was a vibe. Was it possible he was crazy and wishfully misinterpreting "signals"? Yes.
- Dave liked Sadie a lot. Sadie's a great girl and a great girlfriend. But he had a bigger heart-spark for Alli.
So: dump a good, solid thing for an enticing question mark?
One way to look at it is: if he doesn't feel 100% about Sadie, maybe he shouldn't be with her anyway.
Another way to look at it is: being single when you had a decent thing and blew it... not as fun as the other kinds of being single.
What would you have bossed Dave into doing?
And on the Cake front: Well, well! Looks like Clare's not actually getting taken for a ride by Jake! I think he really likes her... I think he finds her refreshing. Plus, let's not discount the fact that they knew each other when they were little. The whole "throwing frogs" at her thing -- is there any surer sign of a youngster crush? What do you guys think of their long-term potential?
And: I'm really glad Adam and Drew aren't leaving Degrassi. That would have been the biggest bum out ever.
So. Clare this season.
Clare has gone boy crazy, I would say. Back in season 8 when she said to Darcy "I'm going to school for education, not boys..." Nope! Not really, anymore. It's good though, because she's definitely growing up and going through quintessential teenage experiences.
Were you surprised at people's anger at Clare for breaking up with Eli?
I don't want to label any audience members who were upset, but I think some of them were maybe... distracted? By Munro, and the "damaged character" -- that's always been a magnet for young girls. So I understand how that may have skewed their opinion, but I think Clare made the right choice, personally. And I don't know if I would have been strong enough to make that choice if I were in her place, so I'm really proud of her.
Even though Clare's the type of person that wants to help, she had given so much already that it was taking a huge toll on her, and it was important to take a new direction.
With the casual relationship that Clare and Jake are trying to have, I think no one's sure if Clare is really built for casual. But do you think it's good for her to try?
Clare tries to do that because she doesn't want to get hurt, and I think the experience overall is good for her. She's trying a lot of new things this season, and I think it's all good for her. As teenagers, even the bad choice is a good choice because you get the experience. And Clare's losing her naivete, I suppose.
What does the world need to know about Justin Kelly?
There's too much to say! He's awesomeness in a really tall package! He's a really good artist, he draws the greatest cartoons. And real sketches, too. He's hilarious. And he's really tall.
So, with Ray and Charlotte and everybody graduating, you're kind of one of the seniors now, in terms of being a show veteran. How does that feel?
In all honesty, I'm petrified. I'm so, so scared. I was talking about this with my friend Krista; how once Jajube leaves, I will be the longest-running cast member still on the show. And it makes me... not a leader, because we don't have that around here. But it feels almost like a burden, a responsibility. Like -- I love all the people who are leaving, but Charlotte was an idol. And a friend. And every great thing someone can be to you. I was always looking up to her and trying to emulate her, and I'm not ready for her to leave! She's always that awesome, put-together person. She did great on the show, she did great in interviews, she had great style, she listened to great music, and we just got along so well. And with her leaving... she's impossible to replace, but I do want to give that kind of attitude to the new young'uns coming in.
So! Your first season of Degrassi! What do you think so far?
I love it! I think it's great. I've always been a fan of the show and I've always loved the work that everyone put into it, and it's great to be a part of it -- especially this season. It's like I'm watching it from a different angle.
What did Munro tell you before you got here; did he give you any pointers or warnings?
No... I mean, I was really fortunate to meet most of the cast when Munro signed on last year. We'd hang out and by the time I came along, it was kind of an automatic welcome. I felt welcome right away.
What do you like about Jake? What do you have in common with him, and not?
There's definitely an element of myself in him. I think he's very easygoing; I'm an easygoing person as well. And he doesn't like to deal with confrontation -- we kind of share that.
He's such a breath of drama-less-ness...
That's one thing I loved about him when I read him, 'cause we all know that Degrassi does have a little bit of drama attached to it. But he was one guy that was just like "I don't want to be a part of this drama."
But obviously... it happens. The more he fits into the story lines, the more he gets his feet wet with that Degrassi drama.
OK, time for "Get to know Justin Kelly." Favorite music?
Mostly rock, '90s rock. But I do listen to everything.
What do you do for fun?
I play music. Guitar and bass, that's a big hobby of mine. I like to watch a lot of movies, and just hang out with friends and be social.
Are you outdoorsy at all like Jake?
I want to be? When I get outdoors, if I'm at a cottage or something, then I love it. But it depends on the atmosphere -- in the summer I love to be outdoors, in the winter not so much. And in the middle, we'll see.
What's your family like?
I have one brother, and then mom, dad, and stepfather. And my brother is actually who I got the music gene from... even though he's a sibling. But yeah, we jam together and he's very talented, so I get a lot from him.
Do you mind me asking how old you were when your parents got divorced?
I was 6 years old. It was a while ago. And for sure, that's another thing that Jake and I have in common. It's different because I live with my mom, and he lives with his dad so there's that father-son element. But that's one thing I had to relate to him with at first, getting to know how he felt about it.
What about the casual relationship thing that Clare and Jake try to have. Do you think those work in real life?
Mmm... yeah, I think it can work. Of course it depends on the person, and I think it's hard to have just a casual thing without there being almost a paranoia going on. Like, 'What if we decided today? What would happen next?' It's very hard to just have a casual relationship.
- Posted on 08/03/2011 by Mary
HEADS UP! SPOILERS BELOW!
Clare has a totes casual sexy kissing dream about Jake. Easy breezy!
You know... Clare is many things, but "casual in the romance department" does not strike me as one of them.
Although... maybe I shouldn't jump to conclusions. I mean I also never would've thought she'd date a guy who wears guyliner. Hell, a few years ago, I never even thought she'd wear actual non-uniform clothes. Clare's growing up, and maybe this is one symptom.
And maybe it'll even be good for her. She could definitely use some fun. And what's more fun than making out with a Lumberjake?
I don't know though. There are some who would argue that casual relationships (...or dating more than one person at once ...or friends with benefits) ever really work in the long run.
What do you think? Can casual relationships work, and under what circumstances?
- Posted on 08/02/2011 by Lisa
SPOILERS BELOW. Don't read this post until AFTER watching "Paper Planes, Pt. 2."
Be nice to that girl in the mirror, Anya.
Yesterday I asked the wise, Degrassi-loving readers of this blog to give Anya some advice. Here's some of what came in:
"I'd ask her what she wants. If Anya wants to do coke um... I can't help that. If she wants freedom and happiness and stuff, I'm pretty sure we can find some other options. Especially since addiction and crashes are kind of the opposite of freedom and happiness." - Dulcinea
"I'd tell Anya to just stop for a minute and breathe. She's had so much stress in her life and she needs to just chill for a minute. Drugs really aren't the answer." - Krystal Marie♥
"I think that the best thing for Anya would be to just slowly get into a conversation about what happened, but not rush it and make her upset. Then when she's done telling you what happened just tell her that it's her decision to do what ever she wants but some things can really hurt her and mess her life up in the long run, and she has a lot of family and friends that want her around... they may seem like their telling her what to do but they just don't want to lose her." - I_<3_23
"I would sit her down and talk to her and let her cry on my shoulder and be the friend she really needs." - EastCoastSwag13
"I would just be there for her, I think she really needs a friend. Someone who doesn't tell her what to do. I don't think she would stop doing coke by being lectured or walked out on, she just needs a good influence, someone on her side." - Charlotte_sometimes311
I wish I could zap all of you lovely advice-givers into the Degrassi world. Your real-world friends are lucky to have you.
Meanwhile, as Anya said "Now!" to more coke, Fiona struggled with saying "Never" to champagne. Fiona seems determined to do what's best for herself (even if it means no more hooking up with Charlie), but that didn't look like an easy choice.
p.s. I miss Mr. Tuxedopants already.
- Posted on 08/01/2011 by Lisa
SPOILERS BELOW. Don't read this post until you've seen "Paper Planes, Pt. 1."
Anya thinks she's hit rock bottom, but has she?
At the very beginning of tonight's Degrassi, Anya's worried about her future and stressed about the talk she has to have with her parents. She says, "Well, things can't possibly get any worse," and uses that as an excuse to try cocaine for the first time.
... and then her life gets worse.
I get that Anya doesn't want everyone telling her what to do, but when you see someone messing up in a big way, it's hard to resist. If you were friends with Anya, what advice would you give her at this point in her life? Aside from, "Stop doing coke!"
Keep in mind that if you try to tell her what to do, she'll be just as mad at you as she is at Owen. Can you give someone advice without telling them what to do? I was mad at Owen for walking away, but like he says at the beginning of the ep, "I'm not your mom." Ultimately, it was Anya's bad decision, right?
Also: Tonight's episode may have skeeved me out more than any other Degrassi episode ever. A few years ago, when I lived in Brooklyn, my whole apartment building got bedbugs. For several months, I lived a nightmare of itchiness, insomnia, and paranoid over-cleaning. Bedbugs are reeeeaaally hard to get rid of, so I understand why Fiona freaked out. I seriously wish I could hug her right now, but then again... I'd rather run away from her at about a million miles per hour, because bedbugs are really easy to spread, and one might get on me during the hug.
Sorry, Fiona. My only advice is: "You'll get through this, with the help of lots of toxic chemicals."
But back to Anya. What would you tell her if you ran into her tomorrow morning?