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- Posted on 03/11/2013 by saidbyjohn
The Life With Boys episode This Time the Problem is With Dad and Not With Boys sent me flying back to when I was an eleven-year-old troublemaker. Sneaking around seems cool, but getting caught SUCKS, and if you don't get caught (which was never the case for me) the guilt will eat you up -- ask Tess!When I was a kid, my parents and grandparents bragged about how smart I was to, basically, everyone! There wasn't one grocery store visit that didn't end in my mother or grandmother telling a random shopper how much of a genius I was. As the years passed, I started to believe I really was a genius. In sixth grade, I stopped doing homework altogether. When my grandfather asked why I wasn't working on anything, I told him my teacher was rewarding me for doing so well in class. He'd nod and say 'okay,' but it turned out he was the real genius.
My grandfather ended up calling my school and asking my teacher why she wasn't assigning homework and she snitched me out! She told him I hadn't turned in any homework in weeks and that I claimed to be forgetting it at home. My grandfather didn't punish me or anything; he didn't even tell me he spoke to my teacher. He just picked me up from school that day and didn't say a word to me. He didn't speak to me for four days (these were the most awkward car rides, ever). I was such a talker when I was younger (still am) and nothing made me feel worse than being ignored. My grandfather was well aware of this.
It might not seem like a harsh punishment, but after a day or two of this perpetual silence, I thought I would literally die of grief. When I figured out what was going on, I had a breakdown in the school parking lot. My grandfather hugged me and told me never to lie to him again. I must say, that whole "I'm not mad at you, I'm disappointed" bit works every time! Maybe Tess is the genius though, because she was smart enough to rat herself out! What do you think? Tell us about a time you've lied to your parents and if it was worth it!
- Posted on 08/31/2011 by Mary
LOOK OUT! SPOILERS! Watch "Dead and Gone, pt. 1" before you scroll any further!
How come Jake was all:
"Gee soon-to-be-stepmom and dad... your big news sure is swell!"
When Clare was all:
"Mother, you may wish to thank me for averting my eyes so as not to accidentally kill you with my death glare."
Theory 1: Jake has had more time to get used to his parents divorce and wants his dad to be happy, even if it's at his own relationship's expense. Clare is still reeling and doesn't particularly care how happy her mom is at this point.
Theory 2: Jake spies an easy way out of this relationship, and is gonna take it.
Theory 3: Jake knows they can't "win" this one so he's not even going to try.
I'm leaning toward a combo of 1 and 3. Especially based on the look on Jake's face when Clare was like "You didn't think about involving me in this decision?" But maybe I'm misinterpreting his face there? I don't know!
What did you think?
Only one more Degrassi: Now or Never episode left! SSSSSIIIIIIIGGGGGGHHHHHHH
- Posted on 02/15/2011 by Mary
One in four people under 18 lives in a family affected by alcohol abuse or alcoholism. Most of those people know what it's like to HATE IT when a parent drinks -- to feel embarrassed to bring friends over, to feel anxiety about their parent's unpredictable behavior, or to feel like they have to take care of their parent instead of their parent taking care of them.
Today, TeenNick is showing this Nick News special called Under the Influence; it's about the different experiences the children of alcoholics have when their parents drink, and the different ways some have found to get through it.
You can watch the whole thing right here:
If you have the same problem in your family, NACOA (The National Association for the Children of Alcoholics) has a very important message for you:
It's not your fault.
You can't control your parent's drinking.
And you're not alone.
Even though you can't control someone else's drinking, you CAN still help yourself -- to have a better and safer life regardless of what they do. Even if the alcoholic never changes, you can still be OK.
1) You can reach out for help -- talk to a trusted adult like a grandparent, aunt, uncle, a friend's parent, or someone at school like a teacher, school counselor, or nurse.
3) You can join a support group -- your school counselor can help you find one. Support groups are a great way to meet other people who are going through the same thing you are, and to help each other through the hard times. One example is Alateen; here's a link to some basic questions and answers about what Alateen is about.
4) You can educate yourself by reading this Q&A from NACOA about what alcoholism is.
And if you have a friend who's going through this, send them a link to this page, OK?
- Posted on 10/29/2010 by Mary
SPOILERS BELOW; watch the ep now if you haven't already. Then let's talk....
1) It was so hard to watch Clare ask questions like "Why do I have to suffer because they fell out of love?" -- questions that really just don't have any good answer. Did anyone out there with divorced parents feel pangs of recognition watching Clare go through this? What would you tell her if you could talk to her right now?
2) So very pleased to meet you, Bullfrog and Cece! Are Eli's parents anything like you expected? Also, would you freak out if you found out your bf/gf's ex used to live with them? Like in their room?
3) Clare and Eli are very different... do you think they're different in good ways, or ways that will pull them apart at some point?
4) Wow. Adam and Fiona on the steps... that was definitely some bonding going on. Who do you think makes a better boyfriend for Fiona, Drew or Adam?
5) So, Dave and Wesley. On the one hand... dude, Dave and Alli have so much in common, it's really a wonder they didn't end up together. Why can't people appreciate the friends they have rather than wanting "cooler" ones? On the OTHER hand... you know, Dave has some interests that Wes doesn't. It seems natural that he'd want some other friends, too. I guess the problem is when he tries to replace one with the other, instead of having lots of friends. What did you think of the Dave/Wes dynamic tonight?
- Posted on 10/08/2010 by Mary
And once you're all caught up, let's talk.
* ALLI!! Do you guys think she made the right decision? Also, do you think she does have low self esteem? Or is something else behind her 'always making bad decisions where boys are involved'?
* Do you think all-girls' school will help or hurt Alli's boy craziness? 'Cause... I went to an all girls' school for a while and I gotta say... not all the girls there were exactly WISE about boy-folk.
* Still Alli: My heart went directly into my stomach when the Bandharis started looking through Alli's file in Simpson's office. Do you know the feeling I mean... that 'omg, I'm caught' feeling? Boooo that feeling.
* KC and Jenna: Did KC have a right to be pissed about the way Jenna "came out" as pregnant? Or did he lose all rights to be mad about anything the second he basically abandoned her?
*And don't worry: Eli's back in the next episode, promise. He was suspended in this week's ep, 'cause of Vegas Night.
- Posted on 08/03/2010 by Mary
Can we talk about Sav's parents? Because they make me really, really mad. I remember having arguments like that with my parents and it was so frustrating. I wonder if Sav is going to go INSANE with the freedom once he moves out of his parents' place? Does anyone out there have parents like the Bhandaris?
Anyway, as for tomorrow night... someone requested pics of Fitz, so here's a double-dip for you.. Fitz AND Eli. Looking saucy, and like neither of them is up to any good on tomorrow night's episode.
- Posted on 04/14/2010 by Mary
I was watching that episode of One on One where Flex's fiancée (aka Breanna's art teacher) tries to amp up her step-mothering skills on Breanna, and can't quite find the right balance between being there for her as a parent-figure, and staying out of the way.
I'm sure a lot of you have dealt with a step-parent who wasn't sure whether they should try to be an enforcer -of-rules, or a "friend", or something in-between.
What kinds of relationships do you guys have with your step-parents? And for those with good ones... was it always good, or did you have to work at it, and how did you work at it?
- Posted on 04/05/2010 by Mary
Walk in on your parents having a particularly special moment with each other?
Or have your parents walk in on you and your bf/gf having a particularly special moment with each other?
Which emotionally scarring experience sounds more awesome to remember for the rest of your life?
(And if you' re still on spring break right now, you can check out "Adventures in Double Dating" on One on One Tuesday at 11:30a et... where Flex and Breanna basically catch each other out on dates... but nothing toooo scarring, thank God..)